Sod Valentine’s Day, it’s our getting together anniversary

Seventeen years ago today J and I decided that we should be a couple. We’ve been together ever since.

[obRant] The hype about Valentine’s Day annoys me greatly, because what I see in the media and popular culture is an emphasis on how you act on one day of the year towards a specific person who you love. Just like Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, though slightly less of a Hallmark Holiday since it is an actual Saint’s Day.

Here’s what I try to do instead: every day I try to treat J the way the media and popular culture reckon you should on Valentine’s Day. Unfortunately I’m not very successful at doing so. The flip side of this approach is that (hopefully) I’m not behaving badly towards J most of the time and thinking that a nice Valentine’s Day card/stuffed toy/chocolates/dinner will make up for it. [/obRant]

Finally, some randomness: J and I have been a couple for about half her life, which is also the length of our marriage plus the ages of our kids.